Mom who gave birth to a stillborn baby speaks of the kindness she received by the nurses at the hospital


She spoke out about the topic that is uncomfortable for everyone but it teaches us something about compassion that we should all know.

Losing a child is an indescribable pain, and in those moments of immense sadness, the last thing grieving mothers need to hear is that everything will be okay, because it never is. The sorrow remains even after a long time.

Rachel Whalen gave birth to a stillborn baby, and that’s when her world collapsed. But this brave mother gathered courage to speak up about the most sensitive topic we all tend to avoid.

Rachel shares how the nurses from the hospital where she gave birth helped her get through her difficult experience. These kind and empathetic women gave her hope when she needed it the most.

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Simply saying “I am sorry for you loss” is never enough.

Grieving parents find solace in constant care and support during difficult times. The nurses provided Rachel with exactly that, as their small gestures amounted to something greater than the individual acts. Rachel expressed her gratitude and appreciation for their support by writing a heartfelt letter on her Facebook page.

“To the nurses, Thank you for saving me. Your skills and your knowledge saved me from following my daughter into death, but it was your compassion that guided me back towards life. The humanity you demonstrated is what brought me back into life; you made it possible to think about living after death. For this, I owe you my love and deepest gratitude. Thank you to the nurses who always made sure my husband had enough pillows when he had to stay in my hospital room. And thank you to the nurses who let him sneak popsicles from the freezer. You recognized that this was an experience for him and that he also needed your care.”

Rachel believes doctors keep patients physically alive, but nurses have a crucial role in uplifting their spirits and preventing depression. Nurses also understand the father’s pain in situations like Rachel’s.

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The nurses at the hospital were her guides and escorts, literally taking her to to exactly where she needed to be so that her own life could be saved.

“Thank you to the nurse who came with me when they rushed me to the ICU from Labor & Delivery. Thank you for being my advocate when I couldn’t speak up because I was too busy fighting for my life. I’m not sure I would have lived to see my daughter if you hadn’t been there. Thank you to the nurse who taught me how to fill my bra with ice packs when I needed to suppress my milk after my daughter was stillborn. I also want to thank you for holding me as I wept at the burden I could not release. Your embrace did nothing to lighten the heaviness in my breasts, but you brought a glimmer of light into my very dark world. Thank you to the nurse in the ICU who came in to clean me up after my daughter died. Thank you for taking the time to help me wash my face and brush my hair. I can still sense how it felt to have you smooth my hair back into a ponytail, it was a touch that wasn’t a poke or a prod. It was a gesture.”

In the time when you feel like your whole world turns upside down, the nurses make sure you move on. Their kind gestures and their courage to speak to a mother about her deceased child and even calling it by name means they acknowledge that the little soul is never dead in the heart of the parents.

“Thank you to the nurse who crouched by my bedside and asked me about Dorothy. Thank you for knowing how important it was for her to be real even though she was gone. I will never forget the way you leaned in, just like we were friends, and asked: ‘Do you want to tell me about her?’ Thank you to the nurse who dressed my baby and took her picture. Thank you for making sure her hat didn’t cover her eyes and that her hands were positioned so gracefully. That picture means the world to us. Thank you to the nurses who took the time to read my chart before shift change. I want to thank you for learning our names and learning the name of our daughter before you walked into my room. It meant so much to hear our names spoken together. It made us feel like a family.”

Mothers like Rachel can find solace in acknowledging and embracing the reality of their struggles, as well as granting themselves the necessary time to mourn.

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“Thank you to the nurse who slipped quietly into my room on my first night without Dorothy so that you could hold my hand. Thank you for whispering to me your story about your own child who was born still. Thank you for being the first person to lead me out of the isolation one feels after losing a child. Your presence felt too good to be true. I’m still not convinced I didn’t dream you up just, so I could make it through that first lonely night. Finally, I want to thank the nurses who saw me through my pregnancy with Dorothy’s little sister. Even after Frances came into the world, you never forgot that someone came before her. You knew that the birth of Frances did not make me a first-time mother. It made me a mother of two.”

Rachel signed the letter, “Gratefully, The One You Brought Back.”

Please spread this story among your loved ones to assist them in understanding how to support grieving parents.

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